April 24, 2017 — My ex-husband Jake asked his girlfriend Erin to marry him over the weekend! My kids are super excited (because they love her) and immediately began planning when she should have a baby — uh, yeah, they did! Continue reading
January 13, 2017 — Three weeks and three days, or 576 hours, since I last saw Mario. Another week until I see him for the Women’s March. We are both going crazy with sexual frustration and anticipation. We have long dirty conversations on the phone. Pictures are exchanged. I start to feel like he’s not a real person, just some manufactured image on a phone screen. Long-distance is difficult, especially when you are still haunted by past relationship mistakes. Continue reading
January 6, 2017 — Divorce month (aka January) is here. My office phones are ringing non-stop and I have multiple court appearances each week (sometimes each day). Studies show that after the holidays are over and the new year rolls in, there is a spike in divorce filings. Many people don’t want to ruin that holiday magic by filing for divorce. Continue reading
December 31, 2016 — Ready to kiss this year goodbye! Friends and family share how done we collectively feel with 2016. I write to express my journey so far, after all, if I hadn’t worked hard to heal, I might have missed out on Mario. My kids are still out of school, so I read up on the new year (2017 is the Chinese year of the “fire cock”!) and feng shui. Continue reading
December 25, 2016 — Erin is out of town. Jake and I decide that he’ll come to my house for the morning. While we are great friends, there is nothing quite like spending several hours with your ex-husband on your sofa to remind you of why things didn’t work out. He makes fun of my hair. He makes fun of my breakfast (though admittedly I burnt it to a crisp). The kids have a great time and make a huge mess. Jake takes our boys to the playground and my daughter spends the afternoon with her dad. I’m alone. Continue reading
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December 17, 2016 — Back in New York and I’m ready for the holidays. I have all the gifts bought and wrapped. NYC is alive with decorations and tourists. I’m excited because Mario planned a last-minute getaway to come up. But first, his best friend Matt — as well as Matt’s son and Mario’s 16-year-old son — are staying with me to see the sights. My house is full of people. Matt is over 6-feet tall. He and the boys are tired from the flight, so I take them to get some NYC pizza and see the tree at 30 Rock. Continue reading
December 10, 2016 — As soon as I cross the airport security, Mario scoops me up into his arms. We start kissing right there and I wonder how we’ll make it back to his place. It’s the middle of the day and he asks if we should stop for lunch. “No,” I say, “I only want one thing — you.” Continue reading
December 5, 2016 — On returning from my Thanksgiving trip, I find that things in my house are misplaced. Some kitchenware is missing. Some wine is gone from the pantry. And my vibrator is missing a battery — also the switch is broken. I confront my ex-boyfriend, who later admits that he broke it and took the wine. I had asked him to feed the cat while I was in Minnesota. So I guess that involved riffling through my stuff. Continue reading
November 27, 2016 — Being a single parent has so many benefits: I get to make day-to-day lifestyle decisions on my own. My kids have a more intimate relationship with me (one-on-one) and are learning to be independent. They see me clearly handling the household chores, so they pitch-in. They appreciate.
The drawbacks to single parenting, however, can be huge — take travel for example. Me & three kids at the airport for the Thanksgiving trip to Minnesota. There’s no sitting down. There’s no reading on the plane. There’s nothing but keeping my eyes on three moving targets until we jump into my dad’s waiting car. Continue reading