August 10, 2017 — As many of you might recall, my Grammie passed away this June. Even though she was in her 90s, my family and I were caught off-guard by her sudden passing: she was spry, quick-witted and full of life. “I’m so upset,” my mom tells me one day. “I just wasn’t done having fun with her.” Continue reading
April 21, 2017 — What does it mean to fail — to be a failure? A close friend tells me the other day how her divorce makes her “feel like a failure.” Her personality is assertive — she’s a corporate litigator after all — she doesn’t like to lose. “But now I’ve failed at marriage. I feel like a failure at life,” she says.
Does divorce mean that you’ve failed?
April 14, 2017 — This is spring break and I take my three kids to Florida. At the airport, we luck out and find friends headed to Florida on the same flight. #singlemomtravelwin When we get to Orlando, Mario picks us up. He’s traded-in his sleek silver BMW for a large truck that can fit all of the kids. This is the first time our kids are meeting (although they’ve been on Facetime for weeks). Let’s see how our parenting styles mesh, shall we?
April 7, 2017 — Have you ever put a marshmallow in the microwave? Well so far that is my experience with tulle. For me, tulle is now a love-hate relationship, just like gooey, hot marshmallow (mmmm — seriously why haven’t you put a marshmallow in the microwave yet? Stick it on top of a chocolate square a bit of graham-cracker and thank me later). I’m still looking for a dress that will be fluffy and fun, but also smooth and simple. Long and short, but also plain but with sparkle. You got that? Me either. I try on a bunch of sort-of-wedding-dresses but sort-of-casual-dresses.
March 30, 2017 — The best day of my life (so far) was not giving birth to my kids (even though I loved seeing their smooshy faces after each long nine-month pregnancy). It was not graduating with honors from law school. It wasn’t landing that big firm job (despite the $$$). It wasn’t starting my own firm when, years later, I was desperate to exit Biglaw. It was not even when the love of my life proposed (although that was a great day)!
The best day of my life was when my ex-husband said to me: “I never realized how much work you were doing. I didn’t realize how hard this is — work, kids, housework — you’ve been doing it all. I’m sorry.” Continue reading
March 30, 2017 — This week is hectic with court and kids. Obviously much is still to be decided about the wedding — not to mention the dress, shoes, the kids, the kids’ “outfits,” etc. — and I feel like we have a ton of time to work out these details. (I write that, but as I sit here in mid-July, I still don’t have things firmed up and I’m two-months out from our wedding date!) Continue reading
March 24, 2017 — We safely made it through the Ides of March (yes, that is a “thing” for me) and now I’m looking for a wedding dress and figuring out logistics for the wedding day. Mario and I plan to get married in September and we both want a simple ceremony at the Courthouse followed by some fun pictures in Manhattan. Afterwards, we will jump on a plane and go somewhere exciting for a week without the kids! Easy-peasy right? How much does a wedding cost anyway?
March 17, 2017 — Mario and I are set to have a fun weekend together when a good friend (and fellow single mom) Casey asks me to help out on an intense trial involving an international custody dispute. I can’t resist a trial opportunity that doesn’t involve me dealing with a painful pre-trial build-up.
March 10, 2017 — “You are getting married? Again?” says a friend of mine. Another friend of mine asks: “I see that you guys are so happy, but why do you need to get married? Can’t you just ‘be‘?” There is also the standard: “Prenup!” And my favorite response so far: “Hey, you’re a divorce lawyer, you can always undo that later!” Continue reading
June 14, 2017 — My Grammie was always a bastion of feminine strength and determination. I am reposting this blog entry because my Grammie passed away unexpectedly late Tuesday night/early Wednesday morning. My Grammie was always determined to have a great life no matter the odds. I may not have agreed with her politics, but I’m not living in small-town USA either. I will always love you Grammie. Continue reading